Do me a favor, and ask yourselves, are you in Pain? Are you holding onto something in the past that has left you in pain emotionally, mentally, or even physically. So many of us are in so much pain, walking around with the weight of the world on our shoulders, afraid to face what is hurting us the most. Pain is not natural. Pain is life’s way of getting your attention, and awareness is the first step toward healing. When it erupts your life, you must stop doing whatever is causing it, and start doing whatever it will take to eliminate it.
One of my favorite teachers in life, Iyanla Vanzant said it best when she stated, “Until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, and alcohol, and drugs, with work, with sex, but eventually it will stain your life and you will continue to bleed. You have to find the strength to pull out the core of your pain, the memory of it, and make peace with it”.
We must never forget that pain is normal but it’s not natural, and in order to heal the pain you’ve got to feel it, deal with it, and heal it. If you are numb to it and don’t feel it then you need to go to that dark place inside of you and call it out, it really is the only way. The crazy thing is that when we feel pain inside of us, we reach to the outside to heal it, a pill, a drink, a cigarette, a woman, or even a credit card. The fact of the matter is that pain gets your attention, yet so many of us feeling pain mask it by calling it something else such as frustration, hunger, and even horniness. I always say that when we are in a state of pain then we are bleeding, this simply means that our life force is leaking out and it’s not creating or producing any new life for you.
A huge part of dealing with the pain is forgiveness. Forgiveness is a process of giving up the old for something new. Old experiences and memories that we hold onto in anger, resentment, shame, or guilt which in turn cloud our lives. The truth is, every bump you have faced on this journey, you had to faced. It was a growth experience. There was something you needed to know or learn. Whenever I am put in a situation that is difficult, I take a step back and try and understand what the lesson here is. What was it that God was trying to teach me, I found that if I never made the effort to understand the situation fully, I would be holding a memory inside of me that would bring me nothing but pain – I needed to forgive. If you don’t forgive then you stay angry, hurt, afraid, ashamed, and guilty – you end up missing the lesson. You will be stuck in a cloud of pain.
I will leave you with the following, this life is so beautiful. With everything going on around us, we must understand that tomorrow is not promised for any of us. If you are facing pain, you have to feel it, deal with it, and heal it. We must never forget that all pain is the same, the only way it differs from person to another is the way it is externalized. Love one another and help each other, let us heal this world.